T. Harv Eker is a master in mental control or shall we say “reprogramming” the way we think about money, wealth, and success. Believe it or not, but the greater majority of us have been told lies or been misled for most of our lives about how we should feel about wealth. Each of us has what is called a financial “blueprint” that we’ve followed and this book aims to help us break free of these constraints. Eker helps us identify exactly what our financial blueprint is and how to achieve it.
Every wonder why some people fail when given opportunities for success or why others speak negatively about someone who wins the lottery, or a millionaire who lands another big payday, etc? It all comes back to how money was perceived in the household they grew up. This might all sound like a bunch of hocus pocus but truly give this book a shot with an open mind and it WILL change your life.
If I can give you a personal example, my wife saw me reading this book and was interested in checking it out. She’s not an entrepreneur nor has she ever dabbled in business ownership but I told her she should read it because a lot of what Eker speaks about revolve around the limiting beliefs we have about our own worth and how it affects our choices we make. Within a few short hours of getting into this book my wife was completely broken down and in tears. Eker’s chapters on limiting beliefs and identifying your blueprint made her realize that so much of what she has done in life and thoughts she had about money stemmed from her struggles as a young adult as well as her upbringing in a household where every dollar earned was a challenge. As an adult so much of her life has been focused on “proving her worth” to the world instead of worrying about what she wanted to do most. She also realized her spending habits were also directly related to her past financial blueprint. Unlike her childhood where they could never afford anything nice, now, whenever there was a good amount of money coming in she felt the need to spend it on expensive items yet again to say to the world that she is better off and is not going to repeat her previous struggles. It was tough seeing my wife go through this but also amazing that a simple book could have such a profound impact in such a short amount of time.
Since reading this book my wife and I have both readjusted our perception of wealth and how we plan to achieve it. We have also focused more on the things that will bring us personal and family happiness instead of worrying about proving anything to anyone else.
I’ve heard people say this book is “cult-like” or too “self-help” for them to really get behind it. So I see their point but why not give it a shot? Why not go into something with an open mind if it can truly change your life? But that is ultimately the point here. Eker is trying to CHANGE your mindset and feelings about money so if you are not willing to let go of your preconceived notions than you will never connect with the message here.
This book is broken into two main sections. Part 1 focuses on identifying your personal and success blueprint. Part 2 focuses on the “Wealth Files” which are, seventeen ways in which rich people think and act differently than most poor and middle-class people. Many people who are financially struggling will chalk a rich person’s success up to luck but it is so much more than being in the right place at the right time. The majority of rich people set goals, saved, planned, and put in the hard work. And they continue to do that even after they become rich which is why the rich get richer, and continue to build upon past successes.
I wholeheartedly believe in the book. I would say its in my Top 10 books for entrepreneurs even if some of you will immediately brush it off as ridiculousness. If you are one of these people you need to check your attitude and give it a shot. Seriously. Meditate, open your mind, and pick this book up. You will be better off for having done so I absolutely guarantee that much!
Here are a few short snippets from the book and hopefully you see why I’m drawn to this book and the idea that reprogramming our success blueprint if we are not happy where we are is the only way to move forward and be successful. Here’s a passage where Eker is talking about his own past experiences and how he began to realize how to develop the right mindset to be successful:
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Like many of you, I supposedly had a lot of “potential” but had little to show for it. I read all the books, listened to all the tapes and went to all the seminars. I really, really, really wanted to be successful. I dont know if it was for the money, the freedom, the sense of achievement, or just to prove I was good enough in my parents’ eyes, but I was almost obsessed with becoming a “success.”
…I worked my butt off but kept coming up short… How come others were succeeding in the exact same business I was in and I was still broke? So I began doing some serious soul-searching. I examined my true beliefs and saw that even though I said I really wanted to be rich, I had some deep-rooted worries about it. Mostly I was afraid… I might fail, or worse succeed and then somehow lose it all.
…Then as luck would have it, I got some advice from an extremely rich friend of my father’s… He said, “Harv, I started in the same way as you, a complete disaster.” Great. I thought, this was making me feel a lot better… He kept going: “But then I got some advice that changed my life and I’d like to pass it on to you…if you’re not doing as well as you’d like, all that means is there is something you don’t know. Did you know that most rich people think in very similar ways? …It’s not an exact science, but for the most part, rich people think a certain way and poor people think in a completely different way, and those ways of thinking determine their actions and therefore determine their results… If you thought the way rich people do and did what rich people do, do you believe you could become rich too?.. all you have to do is copy how rich people think.”
Being a skeptic at the time, I said, “So what are you thinking right now?” To which he replied, “I’m thinking that rich people keep their commitments and mine is to your dad right now. The guys are waiting for me, see ya.”